Pre-Marital Life Coaching

Premarital counseling, that only includes communication and problem-solving skills training and education about risk and protective factors related to healthy relationships, has produced small to medium effects in relationship quality and communication skills.  In addition, survey research indicates that having some form of premarital education is associated with a lower divorce rate (Owen, Rhoades, Stanley, & Markman, 2011).

By contrast, premarital coaching using our methods helps each individual achieve more than just communication and problem-solving skills; coaching leads each client to become the best version of themselves.  Our significance coaching process will identify blind spots and imbalances that can—and will—prevent a joyful and fulfilling life. This well-known quote says it perfectly: “You cannot heal or change what you do not acknowledge.”

The divorce rate for first marriages is approximately 40%–45% in the United States, the United Kingdom, and Australia and approximately 40% in Germany (Australian Bureau of Statistics, 2001; U.S. Census Bureau, 2002).  Divorce can be agonizing and stressful at a relationship level, and it takes a toll on the children’s and individual partners’ physical and mental health (Baucom, Hahlweg, Atkins, Engl, & Thurmaier, 2006).  The impact of distressed relationships on physical health, mental health, and child functioning is striking.  Marital distress and conflict may lead to decreased immune system functioning, the development of adult psychological disorders and a child’s psychological, social, and school difficulties (Doss, Rhoades, Stanley, Markman, & Johnson, 2009).

In both first and second marriages, couples who are most at risk for marital distress and divorce are least likely to receive premarital education.  Statistically, second marriages are more likely to end in divorce than first marriages, and thus represent an important target for intervention.  Yet, few reports exist on the use of premarital counseling in second marriages.  In comparison to first marriages, individuals in second marriages were considerably less likely to receive premarital counseling for their current marriage partly due to pre-engagement cohabitation, education level, having children from a previous relationship, and marriages performed by a religious leader (Doss et al., 2009). 

 

References

Baucom, D. H., Hahlweg, K., Atkins, D. C., Engl, J., & Thurmaier, F. (2006). Long-term prediction of marital quality following a relationship education program: Being positive in a constructive way. Journal of Family Psychology, 20(3), 448-455. doi:10.1037/0893-3200.20.3.448.

Doss, B. D., Rhoades, G. K., Stanley, S. M., Markman, H. J., & Johnson, C. A. (2009). Differential use of premarital education in first and second marriages. Journal of Family Psychology, 23(2), 268-273. doi:10.1037/a0014356.

Owen, J. J., Rhoades, G. K., Stanley, S. M., & Markman, H. J. (2011). The role of leaders' working alliance in premarital education. Journal of Family Psychology, 25(1), 49-57. doi:10.1037/a0022084.